You and another blogger start your blogs at the same time with similar focus. Theirs takes off and thrives while yours languishes.
You and another author publish at the same time in the same genre. They are at 75 reviews a month later while you are still struggling for 10.
You’ve worked on a difficult passage all day, go to writer’s group, and read the amazing, polished prose of another member.
Envy can find us even when we are content. I think, for today’s writer, it is the footprint of the scarcity mindset, but even adherents to the abundance school of thought can find themselves face to face with envy.
Remind yourself that we all walk different paths and things will happen for each of us at different times.
Put blinders on. Commit to non-comparison. Set clear and attainable goals and don’t look up from them.
Remember that things are rarely equal. Genre, style, voice, and trends are all factors in gaining traction with books, blogs, or any other form of online life. It takes time to find your readers.
Learn from others who are doing well. Be happy for them and know that your turn will come.
Understand it’s a normal human reaction. Acknowledge it, deal with it, and move on.
One of the things I like best about the indie community is the high level of support for other authors, the willingness to collaborate or combine efforts, to recommend each other’s books, and the general belief that there are more than enough readers for all of us (and they read far faster than we can all write). In other words, we aren’t competing with each other.
That helps combat envy like nothing else.
We’re human. We’re going to experience it at some point. Be gentle with yourself but tough on envy. Then get back to work.